There is so much to know and so much advice that can be given.
I’ll offer a couple big ones here. Ones that I think can act as great guideposts over the years.
Become a dedicated fan and student of the sport.
If your ultimate goal is to have your child fulfill his/her potential, you must learn as much as you can about the game itself. This involves watching a tremendous amount of professional matches, trying to analyze them, reading and hearing post game analysis (this can be a tricky one as most “analysts” know jack!), and exchanging thoughts with others.
I advise this for 2 reasons:
- Without a deep understanding of the game, I believe it is extremely difficult to identify a coach who can truly develop your player. This becomes increasingly important with age group.
- If you are to going to give soccer advice to your child, which parents do, you need to know what the hell you’re talking about. The influence parents hold can unwittingly stifle their kids development or help it. It’s a function of how much they “know”.
Soccer looks simple, but is rich in complexity. As such, please don’t make the mistake of thinking your understanding is exhaustive. There is always more to learn!
Love
Understand that training 2 times a week with a game on the weekend is not remotely enough time for a player to develop. No matter how great a trainer you have, it is up to the player to live with the ball at their feet, and the game on TV. But the only way that will happen is if they love it.
Which brings me to perhaps the greatest advice of them all: Your focus as a parent should be on what can nurture that love.
What do you guys think? Let the advice train begin!
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I think that is the best advice you can give. I struggle with my kiddo because for parents who coach a different sport you always think well I can help him out with some advice but I realize the older he gets I don’t know enough about the soccer to help him anymore. Just because your a coach in another sport doesn’t mean you know your kids sport! I always encourage him to ask your trainer or your coach!I realize now how much I do need to understand Soccer and how I do need to surround myself with the game as much as I do volleyball to better understand how to get my son to the next level and help him be successful in pursuing his Dreams! Thanks for the advice I hope you can share some advice!
Thank you for the comment Adrianne!
You seem very well grounded and your son is lucky to have you. Feel free to contact me any time if you have questions. I’ll be happy to answer.
I have seen too many good players ruined by the poor decisions their parents make.
Many parents have a very low soccer IQ and are impressed with unimportant things.
Worse is the parent that lacks discipline and integrity and teaches the wrong values to his kid. Like the saying goes, “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.”
Some of the best players in the world developed talent without a coach or a pesky parent. I do believe that love for the game is the key.
Some of the best players grew up playing on the streets. No Coach, Parent, Ref, Trainer, etc, etc, just a love for the game.
If your child has a love affair for soccer, then find them the best coach and team you can find, the rest will fall into place.
Garry has covered the subject of coaches in quite some detail. Read some of the older blogs to be enlightened.
Hi Oscar,
I think all your comments are spot on!
The opposite is also true:
If you have the greatest coach on the planet, but you don’t have a “love affair” with the game, it’s just not gonna happen.
Thanks for contributing man!